Welcome to my journal! Here you will find my personal ruminations, posts, and experiences with Nexus Prayer.
Although I add new entries, practical tips, and suggestions for improving your Nexus Prayer practice regularly, much of the content you will find here is taken directly from my original observations and notebooks of 2015 while conducting my one year (365 consecutive days) of research, intensive study, and development of Nexus Prayer.
“We hear God best when we are still and silent.”
It is my sincerest prayer that by sharing my personal insights about Nexus Prayer with you here that you, also, will come to discover not only a deeper communion with Jesus Christ, but experience the unconditional love of God and the “peace that passes all understanding” that can be yours through the quietude of Nexus Prayer. After all, we hear God best when we are still and silent.
“Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 46:10
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NOTES & CREDITS
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Although this website was created to share the lessons I’ve gleaned over the years from both my studies of Psalm 46 and personal experience with Nexus Prayer, I’m reminded of these words of wisdom from King Solomon:
“The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun. Is there any thing whereof it may be said, See, this is new? it hath been already of old time, which was before us.” Ecclesiastes 1:9,10
That puts things in proper perspective, doesn’t it? Humbling, actually. Truth is, although God gifted me with something “new” in Nexus Prayer in 2015, in the end, and if I’m honest, “There’s nothing new under the sun.”
With that in mind, this page (and the quotes that follow) will feature the collective words and wisdom of both sages and saints – persons of deep spiritual insights – all with something to say about prayer, stillness, and silence. Words to live by. Words to pray by.
If Americans are nothing else, we are a nation of busy people. Ask anyone you know, “Hey, how are you doing?” and the answer you’ll most often receive may not be “I’m fine,” but instead, “I’m busy!” Worse yet, ask them how often they pray–even devout Christians—and the reply you’ll receive all too often is, “I’m too busy to pray.”
If you are too busy to pray, you are too busy.”
~ Saint Teresa of Calcutta
Indeed, as Kevin DeYoung in his book, Crazy Busy,1 points out, the average American works more and rests less than people in other developed nations; we’re not only stressed out, but also stressing out our kids; and we’re not getting enough sleep. No surprise there. But what is surprising is that although most of us pride ourselves in our ability to multi-task, the truth is our brain is literally not capable of multi-tasking. (Maybe that’s why James reminds us that “A double-minded person is unstable in all his ways.” James 1:8 ) Instead, scientists tell us that what we refer to as multi-tasking is actually switch-tasking2. Call it what you will, but with most of us trying to juggle our work schedules, school schedules, raising children, daily chores and errands, church activities, and commuting–not to mention all the time we spend on our devices, social media, and watching TV, well, you get the picture. Add to all that the fact that the computer in our head is processing more than 70,000 thoughts per day,3 and I’m certain you’ll agree that we’re a busy people!
Think hyperactivity and busyness are only a modern-day malady? Think again. When King Solomon was not busy planning the first Jewish Temple, building his army, leading his people, and caring for his 700 wives, he also found time to write, share his wisdom, and even pray. Notice that I placed prayer at the end of that list, for there was apparently a period in his life when even he was too busy to pray. Interestingly, although Solomon rightly declares in his book of Ecclesiastes “There’s a time and purpose for everything under heaven,” he either intentionally or inadvertently left out “a time for praying” for it is missing from his “biblical to-do list.”4
Every one of us needs half an hour of prayer a day, except when we are busy – then we need an hour.”
~ St. Francis de Sales
But perhaps the best-known account of biblical busyness is found in Luke 10:38-42 – the time when Jesus visited the house of Martha and Mary.
“Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus’ feet, and heard his word. But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? Bid her therefore that she help me. And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”
Now, if you are like me, you probably relate to both Martha and Mary. Both of their attitudes and actions have merit, and there is no shortage of biblical commentaries discussing the finer points of their personal choices. But for the purposes of this short post and in the interest of time, suffice it to say that most of us are probably more like Martha. “No bees, no honey; no work, no money”, “Idleness is the Devil’s workshop”, and “There’s no substitute for hard work” (Edison said that) I can hear you say.
But my guess is that Mary was no phlegmatic, and her desire to sit at the feet of Jesus was not to engage in mere twaddle. In fact, Mary was most likely just as busy, distracted, worried, and upset about the same things as Martha. She most likely knew precisely how much work needed to be done, probably even felt guilty about it, and knew how stressed her sister was over it all. The difference is that Mary had her priorities in order. After all, how often does one get to have Jesus in your house? No, her decision was intentional. In other words, Mary made a conscious choice to sit at the feet of Jesus, give him her undivided attention, and simply listen…even if for only five minutes.
As for us, it does not have to be an either/or proposition. We can be like both Martha and Mary. The best current example I can think of is Diana, a lay leader in our church and an active member of our local Nexus Prayer group at Saint Dunstan’s. In addition to being a loving mom and wife, she also works full-time, and also serves our church family by singing in the choir, ministering as a Stephen’s Minister, assisting with the Altar Guild, and was just elected to the Vestry. In other words, she’s one busy woman! But, she is also a woman of prayer, who sets aside the time each week out of her busy schedule to sit at the feet of Jesus in worship during our weekly church services, and faithfully sets aside the time to just “be” with God through both intercessory prayer and Nexus Prayer – both in class and as a part of our virtual prayer group. In other words, she exemplifies the very best of both Mary and Martha. Call her a Mary Martha.
And that’s precisely the purpose of Nexus Prayer. Like Martha, we all have to deal with the daily grind and challenges of life, but like Mary, each of us must also find the time— even if only five minutes a day – to give God our full, undivided attention to just “be” present to God and listen for His still, small voice. And I know of no better way of accomplishing that than by praying Psalm 46:10.
Be still, and know that I am God.”
Ready to begin? Nexus Prayer can be done in as little as 5 minutes a day and The Steps are easy to learn. Questions? Feel free to contact me anytime!
NOTES & REFERENCES
1 Crazy Busy| Crazy Busy: A Mercifully Short Book About A Really Big Problem by Kevin Deyoung; Crossway (2013). See also, Crossway’s excellent Infographic on busyness: America’s Busyness Epidemic
Prayer – all types of prayer – both public and private are essential for the effectual Christian¹. But when and where is the best time to pray? The answer to that question speaks to the heart of nexus prayer, and is simple and obvious. Or is it?
In Ephesians 6:18, the Apostle Paul encourages us to “pray at all times and on every occasion.” Indeed, Paul comes right out and commands us in 1 Thessalonians 5:17 to actually “pray without ceasing.” Now, clearly, he was not speaking of a daily, incessant, on-our-knees, eyes-closed, and head-bowed type of praying, but rather of maintaining an attitude of prayer throughout the day. (Sometimes, we are not intended to take the bible quite so literally.) So, there’s no right time or bad time for prayer; we should pray at every opportunity. And lest we forget (with thanks to Rudyard Kipling), I’ve mentioned here many times that nexus prayer is intended to supplement, never replace other techniques and forms of prayer in the course of our weekly schedule and daily routine.
As to the where of prayer, I highly recommend finding a sacred space. But that said, although we should take the admonition Jesus gave us in Matthew 6:6 to pray in a certain way seriously, we should also not take this verse literally. In the 17th century English of King James, it reads:
“But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.” In today’s vernacular, we would say it more like this: “But you, when you pray to God (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) go into your inner room, close your door, and pray to God secretly, and your heavenly Father who sees what is done in secret will reward you.”
In fact, many modern bible versions translate it in much the same way. But to be honest, the context and point that Jesus is making about prayer in his Sermon on the Mount² is not really about when or where we should pray, but how we should pray. Simply stated, he is teaching us that we should not pray in such a way that brings unnecessary attention to ourselves. If we do, then that’s our reward. Instead, Jesus is teaching that prayer is best done privately in our “inner room”– in the privacy of our own home, for example, rather than on a busy street corner where we can be seen by men.
But perhaps there is yet a deeper meaning also hidden in this teaching on prayer by Jesus. (He was, after all, speaking primarily to a group comprised largely of Jews, and did often teach with parables, riddles, and curious questions.) The likelihood that there is a mystical meaning embedded in Matthew 6:6 seems all the clearer to me when I read yet another passage from the Apostle Paul, this time in I Corinthians 3:16, and what I consider to be at the heart, the essence of nexus prayer.
“Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?”
When the brother of Jesus¹ wrote in James 4:14 “Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away”, perhaps he had in mind the rhetorical question, “Where does all the time go”? I find myself asking that same question about 2017 with a hot cup of tea and a warm bagel on this first cold January morning of 2018 – the first day of a new week of a new month and a new year.
Like most years, and as I mentioned in my post Praying Resolutely exactly one year ago today, I don’t make resolutions per se. Instead, each year around the time the first cold front arrives, and usually during my evening prayer walks, I begin conducting my personal and spiritual inventory of what I accomplished (or did not accomplish) in the previous year.
Now, don’t get me wrong, like most everyone else I do have a long list of personal, family, home, business, and even financial goals I’dlike I need to accomplish this year, but I prefer having one larger all-encompassing resolution – a theme as it were – for my year. Last year it was to pray more. This year, though I doubt I’ll pray less, my main aspiration is to draw close – even closer – to God. Needless to say, I plan on accomplishing this through nexus prayer, which brings me back to James …
Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you…” – James 4:8
Just like Psalm 46:10 in the Old Testament, this short verse in the New Testament – another command with a promise – is pregnant with meaning. Simply put, if we desire to have more of God in our lives in 2018, then we only need to initiate our intention – through prayer – to be present to God and He will meet us there. Jesus referred to it as going to pray in our inner room (the subject of a future post), Matthew 6:6, and I know of no better way to connect with God there than through nexus prayer, but I’ll let my fifty-two journal posts this year (I plan on writing one a week, of which this is the first) explain how this may best be achieved.
I look forward to sharing these spiritual insights with you throughout 2018 right here on the Nexus Prayer website and through our local prayer group gatherings, but for now, I’ll close with arguably the most important lesson of Psalm 46:10 found in Step 4 of Nexus Prayer. Namely, being still or letting go. If you are like me, 2017 was filled with many blessings, achievements, and successes, as well as a few disappointments along the way. That said, last night during my prayer walk and after taking one more long good look in my mental rear-view mirror, I left the not-so-great parts of 2017 behind me, while carrying forward into the new year all the goodness of last year – the people, the experiences, the memories, lessons learned, and wisdom gained.
May all the blessings of Emmanuel – God with us – be yours not only today, the eighth day of Christmas and first day of the new year, but every day of 2018 as you draw closer to God through Nexus Prayer. Amen.
Now, just for fun, and thanks to Statistics Brain, here are the results for 2017s top ten resolutions in America.² And just in case you are one of those people who actually enjoy making New Year’s resolutions, how about this one? Resolve to join me in praying no less than a five minute Nexus Prayer 365 times (once each day) in 2018. I’ve made that commitment, and hope you’ll join me in adding more prayer in general, and more nexus prayer in particular to the top of your list! Happy New Year!
AMERICA’S TOP TEN NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS FOR 2017
1 Lose Weight / Healthier Eating | 21.4%
2 Life / Self Improvements | 12.3%
3 Better Financial Decisions | 8.5%
4 Quit Smoking | 7.1%
5 Do more exciting things | 6.3%
6 Spend More Time with Family / Close Friends | 6.2%
7 Work out more often | 5.5%
8 Learn something new on my own | 5.3%
9 Do more good deeds for others | 5.2%
10 Find the love of my life | 4.3%
NOTES & REFERENCES
1 James the brother of Jesus | Wikipedia – the free Encyclopedia | There is disagreement about the exact relationship of James to Jesus. The presumed author of the Epistle of James is also sometimes identified with James, son of Alphaeus, James, son of Zebedee, and James the Less.
This is an audio post. Turn up your speakers, hit “play”, and enjoy the music of Advent.
Merry Christmas from Allen White and Nexus Prayer International. Christmas Eve, 2017
“Jesus Christ is Born”
Sing it up high, sing it down low. Sing far and wide that Jesus Christ is Lord. Sing it up high, sing it down low. Sing ’til the whole world knows that Jesus Christ is born.”
“A long time ago like the prophets foretold Immanuel came. Born to a virgin by the Holy Ghost as Gabriel did say. Laid in a manger of hay for his bed, the Shepherds prayed., while Mary and Joseph and Kings from the East their homage gave.” – allen aaron white
This is an audio post. Turn up your speakers, hit “play”, and enjoy the music of Advent.
Merry Christmas from Allen White and Nexus Prayer International. Christmas Day, 2017
Alleluia! Let all creation sing. Alleluia!
Praise to the newborn King.”
“Close your eyes and go to sleep. Jesus, hush your cry. All creation lauds your birth with this lullaby. Born God’s Son in Bethlehem, Savior at his birth. Prince of Peace, Emmanuel. King of all the Earth. Sleep, sleep, sleep. Sweet, Jesus, sleep. – aaw